He has mental issues.

Was working the other day and there was a woman talking to a man in a booth about some other man — presumably her boyfriend or ex. I was sweeping around, and trying not to overhear, but she was kinda loud.

At some point, the man kicked into “bros before hoes” mode and began to defend the man’s behavior.

She responded, “There’s no excuse for his actions…”

And I thought, “Go girl.”

But then she finished her thought, “There’s no excuse for his actions, he has mental issues.”

Me, “🤔😐😒😑.”

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#bipolar, #depression, #mental-health

Booking, publishing, and would like some help…

Doing some publishing work. Trying to get the 2 books in a collaborative series I’ve worked on over the past (almost) decade ALL OVER THE WEB. The first one has been out for a while, but I’m giving it some love to other platforms in preparation of the release of the second.

I’m trying out some new platforms (Google Play Books, Kobo, Barnes and Noble, and more). I also want to have a non-retailer giant friendly version. Something that’s more direct. It’s also something that I want to be able to use with my personal giveaway stories that I do regularly (I’ve crudely been using Dropbox).

I’m finding Gumroad might be the sweet spot. Any Gumroad users on this site? Anyway…

I’m setting it up two ways for my personal usage: one link in the Gumroad store for purchasing, another “discount” link I can use that offers the same book for free.

Here’s how that looks:

  • $0.99 version of my short story The Experiment: https://gumroad.com/l/experimentnaw
  • FREE version of my short story The Experiment: https://gumroad.com/l/experimentnaw/naw001

You do not need a Gumroad account to purchase/download. After you purchase, the email address you provided will receive a receipt with a download link. Save that email for yourself. And because I’m nice, there’s no DRM on the ebook. That way you don’t have to worry about “too many” copies locking your file, or it only working in certain apps, or whatever.

Feel free to click the links and use it. Let me know what you think. Is it nice? Is this a process you wouldn’t mind going through if you were purchasing an ebook? And no, you don’t have to give me $0.99, you can use the freebie one. This is a test.

#ebook, #publishing, #short-stories, #writing

FWD: A Call For Submissions — The Untamed Places

Here’s an intriguing call for submissions. Thinking I might submit something myself. What about you?

#submissions, #writing

✉️ RE: FREE is killing indie. (An urgent warning)

I read this article lately, and it got me thinking about some of my recent decisions about my story sharing. I’m greatly summarizing this article, but basically, giving away free stories is bad for the indie industry overall and it devalues your own work. There’s actually a lot to unpack in the article, and I don’t disagree with all of it, and most of it just makes me think. But it did inspire me to write about what I’ve been doing lately, my free stories, and why I do it.


Over the past few years I began to focus inward on being better at writing with the purpose of publishing/selling. But I also wanted to always put forth stories out there for free. Not because I don’t value my time I put into these stories. No, a part of me looks at the reading landscape, the digital one, and I realize how wonderful it is that we can have stories so quick at our fingertips–in some cases cheaper than a paperback. It’s a different literary landscape than what existed when I was a kid.

But cheap is still money. And for a lot of people, cheap is still not good on the budget. That’s why while I work on stories for publishing/selling, I also work on other stories that I will give out for free. Or like the I Will Kill You for $5 project, one person pays me $5 to write it, but the end result is available for free and for all–so only one person pays for it.

I like to think of it as creating my own personal online library of my work that anyone can access and download the files for free. These are not public domain, you can’t remix or sell them, but you can read them as much as you like. And own as many copies as you like. And email a copy to your friend who you think will like it. They are DRM free.

I’ve also been trying to think of a way to make my next work that will cost money available for free to those who can’t afford it. I don’t know that I’ll want to just drop it in the online library, but I very much want to be accessible to lower-income and poor people as a writer. Because even the less fortunate deserve escapism–an argument could be made that they deserve it most.


I may write more on this, because there is still some stuff bouncing around in my brain after reading the article. But by no means do the words “an urgent warning” come to mind. 🙄

#independent-publishing, #indie-publishing, #indie-writing, #publishing, #self-published, #writing

Avoidance Behavior

I’m learning something new today, so I might as well share. My doctor pointed me to Avoidance Behavior today, and reading up on it is like reading a depressing autobiography of myself. But here’s some info on it, for all of us, in case it’s new to you too — but really just an old friend that’s been around all this time, you just could never remember their name. Susan? Sally? Sanchez?


avoidance behavior. (noun) a pervasive pattern of avoiding or withdrawing from social interaction; a defense mechanism by which a person removes himself/herself from unpleasant situations.

Dictionary.com

Avoidance coping refers to choosing your behavior based on trying to avoid or escape particular thoughts or feelings. It can involve “doing” (e.g., someone who excessively washes their hands to try to get rid of fears about contamination) or “not doing” (e.g., when someone avoids having an awkward conversation). Avoidance coping causes anxiety to snowball because when people use avoidance coping they typically end up experiencing more of the very thing they were trying to escape.

Psychology Today

#anxiety, #avoidance-behavior, #bipolar, #depression, #health, #mental-health

Move This

Do you ever put songs in single-repeat mode and just let it ride for a ridiculously long time? I do that a lot. One of those songs for me is the song Move This by Technotronic. Some classic 90s awesome beats.

And it seems only fair that I put it in your head right now, since I’ve got it on repeat again. You’ll thank me later, I’m sure of it.

https://open.spotify.com/track/0PAGmTNpVASXq2tegMxSOs

#90smusic, #music

U Got it Bad

(This post was originally made on Pluspora, here)

I’ve started putting together a “nostalgia” playlist. Songs that for some reason resonate with me on a nostalgic level. It’s going to be an ever-growing list for me. Been wanting to put together a list of songs that remind me of other times. This will be that.

And how about an amusing story behind User’s U Got it Bad song and why it made the list? There was a girl in the 90s. I don’t recall how young we were… maybe 14. But we met, and though we were from different states, we continued to grow that relationship via phone. That was before people complained about making phone calls. When calling someone and talking for hours was amazing, not annoying. She was in Texas, I was in Missouri. Which meant my parents had to keep an eye on me, or we’d kill it with the long distance bill. I think it was after my dad had come in and said I needed to get off, and we were desperately trying to say goodbye that I accidentally hung up or something. I called right back. And she gave me a little, “U got it bad when ur on the phone, hang up and u call right back.” So that’s always what I think of when I hear that song. Funny thing is, looking back, I don’t think we ever technically dated and I don’t even have a reason as to why we fell out or quit talking. Or why I quit calling. I think I was too dense at the time to realize I was on the verge of a relationship, and just thought we were good friends. Hm. Guess after a while I didn’t have it so bad.

The playlist link: https://open.spotify.com/user/weavedoom/playlist/3m3NqUo15IzvFMJyXsm0T4?si=nM7cvSuhT1CqSCRov1aa_Q

https://open.spotify.com/user/weavedoom/playlist/3m3NqUo15IzvFMJyXsm0T4?si=nM7cvSuhT1CqSCRov1aa_Q

BONUS NOSTALGIA TRACK: The photo I used for the playlist is from a comedy series I did in college. That’s super skinny me on the right, trying to peak around the girl on the desk.

#90smusic, #music, #nostalgia